How is it expressed | What helps
After the stage of denial comes the stage of anger. During the time of denial, the organism, on the one hand, got tired of pretending that everything was fine (since denial is a type of psychological defense, a lot of effort is spent on it). On the other hand, the body is ready for the manifestation of negative emotions.
How is it expressed
- A person begins to recognize the seriousness of the disease, talks about it.
- He begins to blame others and life circumstances for what happened.
- Feels fear, shows anger, resentment, gets angry, conflicts with relatives, suffers.
- Frequent phrases (or thoughts): “Why me?”, “Why did this happen to me?”, “Why am I worse?”, “I am tired of it all!”.
- It seems to him that everyone around is doing what he cannot. For example, at this stage it seemed to me that everyone who comes to meet me on the street is eating ice cream.
A person begins to recognize the seriousness of the disease, the mood and condition can change rapidly.
- The mood and condition of the sick person can change rapidly from very angry to a complete breakdown.
- The partner of the sick person becomes a party accepting anger, fear and resentment, since he is next to him more often than other people. This is a rather difficult period for both. There may be many claims and reasons for conflict. And it’s important to be patient.
What helps
- Find a psychologist specializing in the psychological problems associated with diabetes. This will allow you to save a loved one and at the same time express all your negative feelings as much as possible. Why is this necessary? The fuller and brighter you express your negative feelings, the faster you will overcome them. The faster you can continue a happy life without mood swings, without suffering and conflicts with loved ones. And, importantly, get the strength to be treated well.
- The first point is the most effective. If it doesn’t suit you for any reason, then allow yourself to express aggression, anger, fear and resentment in socially acceptable forms: go to the forest and scream, sing loud music, beat a punching bag, cry, let energy out through bodily activity ( sports, sex).
The fuller and brighter you express your negative feelings, the faster you will overcome them.
- Speak to your partner. Tell us how you feel. “This diabetes infuriates me!”, “Why do I have to do this?” In this case, it is important for the partner to gather all his patience and warmth, to be tolerant and to realize that all this is temporary and will pass sooner or later. Just listen, giving the opportunity to pour out the soul. Lending an ear at the moment is invaluable help and support!
- If at some point you realize that you are starting to get angry at a partner for no reason and transfer your aggression from illness to him, take a break. Count to 10. Take a couple of deep breaths. Your partner is not to blame. No need to take it out on them especially what he did not deserve.
- Do not lose your sense of humor. Laugh, have a pillow fight, walk, joke, watch a nice movie.
- Remember that you have each other, and this is more important than illness.